We hear from many agents who are in abusive relationships, and even those who have left relationships, but say that they love or care for their abusive business partner. They wonder, “Why do I love or care for someone who has hurt me so much?” It can feel strange, confusing and even wrong to love or care for someone who has chosen to be abusive.
While these feelings can be difficult to understand, they aren’t strange and they aren’t wrong. Love isn’t something that just disappears overnight. It’s a connection and emotional attachment that you create with another person. Love comes with a lot of investment of time, energy and trust. It’s not easy to just let go of a life you’ve built with someone, whether they’re abusive toward you or not.
If you’re struggling with feelings of love for an abusive partner, it could be for a number of reasons:
You remember the "Good Times"
You think you can help them
You think they need you
This love can be a survival technique