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Recognizing abuse is the first step.

Your safety is our first priority.

You deserve a future without fear.

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Our advocates were once like you.

The relationship spectrum below can help you understand where your relationship with your upline, agency manager, or even IMO sits.

A healthy business relationship means both you and your "manager" are:

• Communicating
• Respectful
• Trusting
• Honest
• Equal
• Enjoying personal time with family
• Making mutual beneficial choices
• Economic/financial partners

You may be in an unhealthy relationship if your "manager" is:

• Not communicating
• Disrespectful
• Not trusting
• Dishonest
• Trying to take control
• Likes you only when you are making them money
• Pressured into activities
• Unequal economically

Abuse is occurring when in a relationship when one partner is:

• Communicating in a hurtful or threatening way
• Mistreating
• Denying their actions are abusive
• Controlling
• Isolating from others
• Making you feel guilty for family or personal time

You are not alone.

You are never to blame for the abusive actions of others. While responsibility for ending abusive behavior is your business partner’s and theirs alone, there are several steps you can take to protect yourself on your path to long-term safety.

Recognizing that something has to change.

Leaving the relationship

The post traumatic stress that occurs after separation.

You are looking at this for a reason, you have already begin the journey.

We know this step is difficult.  We have walked in your footsteps before.

Abused Agent Syndrome and is a serious issue and we will walk with you during your journey.

We hear from many agents who are in abusive relationships, and even those who have left relationships, but say that they love or care for their abusive business partner. They wonder, “Why do I love or care for someone who has hurt me so much?” It can feel strange, confusing and even wrong to love or care for someone who has chosen to be abusive.

While these feelings can be difficult to understand, they aren’t strange and they aren’t wrong. Love isn’t something that just disappears overnight. It’s a connection and emotional attachment that you create with another person. Love comes with a lot of investment of time, energy and trust. It’s not easy to just let go of a life you’ve built with someone, whether they’re abusive toward you or not.

If you’re struggling with feelings of love for an abusive partner, it could be for a number of reasons:

You remember the "Good Times"

You think you can help them

You think they need you

This love can be a survival technique

Leaving an agent abusive relationship is a highly personal, individual decision, but all survivors benefit from having trusted people during this time. Since those experiencing agent abuse are often isolated by their abusers, it’s important to know how you can support survivors on the path to finding safety.

Our agent advocates are available 24/7 by phone and live chat to discuss your situation and help you identify ways to assist a loved one who may be experiencing agent abuse.

ADAA links to a PTSD mobile coaching app

ISTSS provides a Clinician Directory that allows you to search for a mental health professional based on your location, doctor specialty, special interests, demographic, and language.

ADAA provides a directory of local mental health professionals.

Sidran Institute offers a Help Desk to find personalized, compassionate support.

ADAA lets you search for PTSD support groups in your area, or walks you through the steps to start your own support group.

Talk to your Abused Agent Advocate today.

I feel better and more peaceful already. I feel hopeful again.  

—Survivor, early 20s

I knew the insurance business was lucrative, now that I am free... I believe it!

I was abused and a cult follower.  I became an abuser.  I am sorry for that... but today I am strong and abuse free!

– Survivor, mid 40s

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